“Then the Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper as his complement.’… So the Lord God caused a deep sleep to come over the man, and he slept. God took one of his ribs and closed the flesh at that place. Then the Lord God made the rib He had taken from the man into a woman and brought her to the man. And the man said:Genesis 2:18, 21-24 HCSB
‘This one, at last, is bone of my bone
and flesh of my flesh;
this one will be called “woman,”
for she was taken from man.’
This is why a man leaves his father and mother and bonds with his wife, and they become one flesh.”
While riding home one night, my mind wandered to why my husband and I haven’t been spending much quality time alone together. We have meals together as a family and spend the majority of our days at home together. And yet, the talking we do focuses on the tasks at hand and our current responsibilities. There can be a lack of joy in our daily lives, especially in our marriage relationship. The days just blur together in a pattern of routine and quick recovery operations.
God created men and women to become helpmates and marriage partners for life. He designed us each to be uniquely gifted to fit together as one, with Him as the center. It seems we can forget the blessings of this unity when life becomes overwhelming.
When I remember our dating days, I picture the memories of times together with only the one we loved… A date can include watching a movie, talking over dinner, or taking a walk. It might be completing a fun project or going on a new adventure. What is most important is how we put time and energy into keeping the date and honoring our time together.
Dreams remind me of our wedding day… We state our vows to love, honor, and cherish one another until death. As newlyweds we’re full of ideas and hopes of what our lives together will be like. We may know where we want to live, how many kids we’d like to have, where we want to vacation and retire. We believe the best in each other and find it so much easier to overlook the flaws.
Dating comes first, dreaming is second. If we don’t feel loved, heard, and connected by our partner, we won’t be able to dream with them. When thinking into the future, we can seek ways to keep our married lives interesting and focused on God first and one another second, which will keep our marriages thriving.
PRAYER: Dear Lord,
Thank You for designing the bond of marriage. Thank You for the opportunity to share our lives with our spouse, and to work together to create a life worthy of Your calling. Please help us to remember to take time for dating and dreaming with our partner so that we can keep our connection strong.
In Christ’s name, Amen.
Journal: Plan some times for dates and dreams with your spouse. Do things that you both enjoy and appreciate the opportunity to talk and spend time together. Schedule a time to dream with each other about your future. Pray together and ask the Lord to continue to guide your marriage.