Dealing with Dementia

“Know that Yahweh your God is God, the faithful God who keeps His gracious covenant loyalty for a thousand generations with those who love Him and keep His commands.”

Deuteronomy 7:9 HCSB

“He remembered us in our humiliation
His love is eternal.”

Psalm 136:23 HCSB

On a recent walk in a local park, one of our friends was stopped by a woman. She was having difficulty steering her companion, who suffers from dementia, back onto the main path. 

Their conversation had become heated as they stood in the gravel lot, each one trying to convince the other that she was right. 

As more of our group members came to help, one friend asked the question, “Are you heading toward the waterfall?” This seemed to get her attention, calming down the tension a bit. We all chimed in, saying we had just passed the waterfall, then describing how beautiful and full it was because of the recent rains. 

After a few more minutes of patiently encouraging her to follow her friend, she was willing to go. We watched them walking gently side by side until they moved out of sight. 

It only took a short time for us to help. Hopefully the rest of their journey went more smoothly. 

As we started walking again, we were reminded that all of our families have recently been touched by dementia, too. 

It’s a difficult journey for everyone. They remain here physically, but we mourn the loss of the loved ones we once knew, while still trying to keep them as safe and happy as possible. It can be even harder to explain what is happening to the hurting person who doesn’t understand why they can’t remember. 

Although this part of the journey is difficult, the Lord will remember our loved ones and the commitment they made when they accepted Him. The salvation that comes through Jesus’ death and resurrection still covers them, even if they are unable to remember Him now. He will remain faithful to His own until He calls them home.

The Lord will help us, too, as we struggle to do the best we can to provide the proper care. He knows our hearts and sees our actions. He will remain present as we search for ways to make the days a little better for everyone involved.

PRAYER:  Dear Lord, Thank You for Your faithful enduring love. Dealing with dementia is difficult. We need You to stay close. Please help us to rely on Your strength and the promise of Hebrews 6:10 that states, “For God is not unjust; He will not forget your work and the love you showed for His name when you served the saints—and you continue to serve them.” In Christ’s name, Amen.

Journal:   Review these tips and determine how you may use them with someone you love:
– Create a simple daily routine to reduce anxiety and confusion.
– Use clear, simple language to help with understanding.
– Reassure and validate rather than argue and correct to improve your connection.
– Enjoy favorite activities such as listening to music, reminiscing, and gentle exercise to encourage well-being.
– Provide help with needed tasks while respecting the person’s dignity.
– Above all, be patient and compassionate, offering encouragement and support as needed.